Mental health

To my strong, exhausted friend.

By On 16th August 2017

Dear you, I see you. … You cover it well, but I know how tired you are. Pretending you are coping, painting on a bright smile and saying ‘everything is fine’. Worn out from hiding the effort it is taking you to get through each day. You rarely let your guard down. Occasionally I glimpse, past the work, the relentless…

Mental health

How to answer anxiety.

By On 27th July 2017

What do you say to someone suffering from anxiety? It can be hard to know. You don’t want to put your foot in it, or say the wrong thing. You don’t want to make matters worse. Let me reassure you – there is no perfect thing to say, mostly your friend just wants to know they are not alone. A…

faith / Mental health

On accepting my un-healing.

By On 4th July 2017

I was raised on testimonies of healing. I was taught about the miraculous, Jesus healing the blind man, that meeting in South America when someone was raised from the dead, the missions in Africa where people had seen limbs re-grow and hearing restored. I thought healing was the only answer to the question of illness, because illness was always a sign…

Mental health

One practical way I manage my mental health

By On 26th June 2017

Being too busy is, for me, often the first step on the path to deteriorating mental health. I have made many changes to build a life where I am mentally healthy. One of the most important disciplines I have started to build is the practice of less. Less I always associated the idea of less with things being worse: less…

Family / Mental health

A key to living in the present.

By On 14th June 2017

We have been in Anglesey for about 8 weeks now. It has been fantastic. As I write this I am outside sat at the table under the parasol. If I look up I can see the mountains of Snowdonia in the distance and the patchwork of fields, with the occasional house or farm dotted in between. The swallows that have…

faith

On transitions and finding the courage to move forward.

By On 6th June 2017

What follows are some thoughts on moving from one place to another. We are living in Anglesey at the moment (for a three month sabbatical) but these words are not about a literal move, but a metaphorical one. The past few years I have been on the border, crossing from one way of life to another. My blog is subtitled ‘Learning How To…

faith

On realising I am good.

By On 30th May 2017

I recently wrote a post about freedom. This post was a starting point for re-articulating my faith. If you haven’t read it you might want to check it out before reading this. The ideas contained in these posts are fresh, and like wet paint have the potential to make a mess. I am stumbling towards truth, inarticulately. I am starting to write about some…

Family

To my daughter, on a day we don’t understand.

By On 23rd May 2017

This isn’t really a new blog post. It started as a letter to those who have subscribed to this blog, who I email most weeks. But after writing it and sending it to them I thought I would share it here too. It has been such a strange day. A day of conflicting emotions. A day where our nation has poured out…

Mental health

The question that undid me.

By On 3rd May 2017

I had my first panic attack at 22. Except I didn’t know that was what it was called, or that it was symptomatic of the fact I was suffering with a mental illness. Mental health was not on my radar. At all. I didn’t think of my brain as being healthy or unhealthy. I didn’t think about it having moving…